Warren Farrell is doing an Ask Me Anything on Reddit today. Some suggested questions for him.

Ask him anything!

Ask him anything!

Warren Farrell, the intellectual grandfather of the Men’s Rights movement, is doing an AMA on Reddit today at 1 PM Eastern time. UPDATE: It’s started, and it’s here.

AMA, in Reddit-speak, stands for Ask Me Anything. So I would encourage you to ask Mr. Farrell questions about anything he has said or written in the past that you find troubling, or even just confusing.

Here are some suggestions. Seriously, ask him any of these, as I’m not sure I’ll be able to be online when the whole thing goes down.

1) Mr Farrell, in your book The Myth of Male Power, you wrote that:

It is important that a woman’s “noes” be respected and that her “yeses” be respected. And it is also important when nonverbal “yeses” (tongues still touching) conflict with those verbal “noes” that the man not be put in jail for choosing the “yes” over the “no.” He might just be trying to become her fantasy.

Are you suggesting that if a woman clearly says no to sex, but does not stop kissing a man, that he is entitled to have sex with her anyway because she has given him a non-verbal “yes?” If not, what specifically do you mean? What sort of non-verbal “yes” would outweigh a clear verbal “no?” Why doesn’t her verbal no mean no?

Source: Myth of Male Power, page 315.

Screencap here: http://i.imgur.com/cwSoc.png

2) Mr. Farrell, regarding your research on incest in the 1970s, you told Penthouse magazine that:

“When I get my most glowing positive cases, 6 out of 200,” says Farrell, “the incest is part of the family’s open, sensual style of life, wherein sex is an outgrowth of warmth and affection. It is more likely that the father has good sex with his wife, and his wife is likely to know and approve — and in one or two cases to join in.”

Were you actually suggesting that there are “glowing, positive cases” of parent-child incest – that is, child sexual abuse?  How can child sexual abuse be “glowing” or “positive” for the child?

If this is not what you meant, what did you mean?

Penthouse also quotes you as saying that you were doing your research

“because millions of people who are now refraining from touching, holding, and genitally caressing their children, when that is really a part of a caring, loving expression, are repressing the sexuality of a lot of children and themselves. Maybe this needs repressing, and maybe it doesn’t.”

As I understand it, you’ve said you were misquoted and that you did not say “genitally,” and that what you actually said was “generally” or “gently.” But even with the word replaced, you are suggesting that parents are repressing their sexuality and their children’s sexuality if they don’t “caress” their children. What did you mean by this?

Transcript of Penthouse article: http://nafcj.net/taboo1977farrell.htm

Scanned pages of original article from Penthouse: http://www.thelizlibrary.org/site-index/site-index-frame.html#soulhttp://www.thelizlibrary.org/fathers/farrell2.htm

3) Mr. Farrell, why did you choose a photograph of a nude woman’s ass for the cover of the new edition of The Myth of Male Power? Do you really think that male power is somehow negated by female sexuality?

4) Mr. Farrell, why have you chosen to associate yourself with the website A Voice for Men, a site that frequently refers to women as “cunts,” “bitches,” and “whores?” If you are not aware of this, would you disassociate yourself from the site if given clear proof of the site’s frequent misogynistic attacks on women?

If you’re looking for more ideas on questions to ask him, check out my posts on him in the archives.

These might be good to start with:

The Myth of Warren Farrell: Farrell on Rape, Part One

Warren Farrell’s notorious comments on date rape: Not any more defensible in context than out of it

What Men’s Rights guru Warren Farrell actually said about the allegedly positive aspects of incest.

MRA founding father Warren Farrell responds to questions about his incest research with evasive non-answers. And a smiley. (About his last AMA appearance.

Warren Farrell on Unemployment, Salesmanship, and Other Things That Are Like Rape, Supposedly

Also check out the excellent Farrell’s Follies series on Reddit.

And Fibinachi has a series on Farrell as well.





About David Futrelle

I run the blog We Hunted the Mammoth, which tracks (and mocks) online misogyny. My writing has appeared in a wide variety of places, including Salon, Time.com, the Washington Post, the New York Times Book Review and Money magazine. I like cats.

Posted on April 29, 2014, in a voice for men, creepy, excusing abuse, men who should not ever be with women ever, misogyny, MRA, oppressed men, pedophiles oh sorry ephebophiles, rape, rape culture, reddit, sexual abuse, sexual exploitation, the c-word, the myth of warren farrell, warren farrell, whores and tagged , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 145 Comments.

  1. I sometimes wonder how many guys could be that clueless.

    I quit wondering a long time ago. When every TV set is constantly bombarding you with images of “desirable” that you’re supposed to want and work your butt off to get, and you combine that with a cis-male’s privilege of expecting it all to fall into your manly-man hands just because you were born with a penis, it’s only natural to want what you’re told to want, and expect what you’re taught to expect. The fact that what one wants may in fact be an individual with wants and expectations of her own, on the other hand, never occurred to them because they were never taught to regard women and girls as such. Only as prizes for being A Man. The fact that the “prizes” don’t behave obediently and comply happily is the root of all their misogyny.

  2. …and the fact that they haven’t progressed mentally beyond a childish “BUT I WANTS IT!!!” is the root of all their inability to get taken seriously. Other men have grown up, faced facts, and outgrown ridiculous expectations, or at least learned to put them in their proper perspective. These guys could sure use an old-timey feminist consciousness-raising group. Or, if they keep insisting on “having” women who could be their daughters, a therapy group. Because that shit’s not healthy, and it’s sure as hell not “sensual”, as WTF early on insisted it was.

  3. RE: Bina

    Yeah, that too. I also guess they just live in such a padded world that they can’t actually FATHOM getting raped, except as some sort of racist prison porn scenario. It’s really weird and confusing to me.

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