A creepy expat in Southeast Asia explains why money = tits and how this makes exploiting poor women for sex ok
The sexiest man alive?
Over on Random Xpat Rantings the terrible excuse for a human being who calls himself Xplat sets forth an intriguing proposition: for men in search of sexy times, having money is the equivalent of a woman having tits.
In other words, it’s not absolutely necessary for a man to have big bucks to garner the attention of the opposite sex, just as it’s not absolutely necessary for a woman to have something in the tit department in order to garner the attention of men, but it helps. A lot.
Oh, by the way, the title of the post in which he sets forth this theory is “ALL women are inherently gold diggers down to their pussy juice.”
Let’s let him explain, in his own icky way:
Women know their value. They know they can trade their value for their benefit. In [South-East Asia] this is not a dirty little secret. It’s not even an open secret. It’s just a fact of life. Money is part of the equation, blatantly and openly. …
Money-and-power-and-social-status is exactly equal to breasts. It can be a cause of sexual attraction in and of itself, and can maintain a relationship when there is nothing else being offered.
Yeah, I’m pretty sure when someone is literally interested in nothing about you except your money, you’re not actually in a “relationship” with that person.
Women aren’t men with vaginas. Their sexual attraction triggers are different. It’s not just that they fuck for food. Not JUST a matter of pragmatic sales of a service. Actual attraction is ALSO involved.
I like big bucks and I cannot lie?
Now, of course Xsplat here is challenging the common PUA gospel that men shouldn’t rely on money to win over their “targets” but rather on being cool and caddish and, you know, going to places where there’s a good chance a lot of the women will be pretty drunk.
Manospherians hampsterbate about this with a zillion “ya buts”. Ya, but you don’t NEED money. Yup, and girls don’t NEED tits.
Having tits is better and more attractive anyway, and girls with tits can get more and better quality men.
Having money is better in exactly the same way. You don’t see many flat chested Penthouse centerfolds, nor are there many broke romance novel heros.
Well, I don’t know much about romance novels, but from what I hear there’s a shitload of slash fiction about two dudes named Sam and Dean who basically live out of their car.
It’s not the case that SOME girls are gold diggers.
It’s just a matter of all the gold diggers mining for gold in different ways.
And of course all of this turns out to be a justification for Xplat’s own use of his relative wealth, as a western expat living in Southeast Asia, to exploit impoverished women for sex.
For me sex is about ecstatic intimacy. Money helps to get more intimacy with a greater percentage of girls, and higher quality girls. I choose to allow egoic esteem to include finances. Money is not cheating. Money helps to skin the cat. Money is not separate from my fantastic ethereal self. Money is part of what I am; part and parcel of what I am to a woman.
That’s got to be one of the creepiest and most delusional excuses for sexual exploitation I think I’ve ever run across in the three years of doing this blog.
Posted on November 24, 2013, in creepy, men who should not ever be with women ever, misogyny, PUA, sexual exploitation and tagged misogyny, pick-up artists, PUA, sexual exploitation. Bookmark the permalink. 607 Comments.
Well, yeah of course money gets you sex with lots of girls. Especially in southeast Asia. It’s called prostitution.
By the way – I’ve got tits. Does he give any helpful hints about how I can monetise them? Or, more specifically, turn them into money-and-power-and-status. Can I keep them attached, or do they have to go off on their own and bring back those things?
I’m pretty sure it’s impossible to achieve “ecstatic intimacy” with someone who uses the term “pussy juice”.
“Women aren’t men with vaginas. Their sexual attraction triggers are different.”
No citation? From an MRA??? Wow I’m like really shocked. Wow.
Sounds to me like his only contact with women is with sex workers (or more likely, children, aka sex slaves). Everything about that post screams “creepy paedo sex tourist”.
In the meantime, I guess I’m going to have to tell Mr K that he’s not Teh Sexay after all, since he has no money. He’ll be … surprised, I think. Yes, quite surprised.
Also what about gay dudes? Or lesbians?
kathleenbbs wanted to go off on their own to bring some money into the house, I would throw a going away party. The only reason I’m still attached to the damned things is that reduction is elective in my case and therefore expensive.
Can I just verify, as an Asian with Southeastern heritage, that no, many of the women there don’t actually WANT to be in the sex trade, but they have to due to many factors, including poverty and sex slavery?
Also, fuck that guy with a cactus.
The purpleness of the prose is kind of hilarious given that it’s being used to describe buying sex with impoverished teenagers. That’s a hell of a thing to get all pretentious about.
@bodycrimes – I was thinking exactly the same thing. Is there a way I can use them to make the house payments? Buy fancy-schmancy coffee drinks? Because they have done none of that for far.
Also, “my fantastic ethereal self” is how I shall be referring to myself from now on. Especially in business correspondence.
I’m going to take my fantastic ethereal self to the kitchen to make some more tea. brb.
That’s pretty much my thoughts on it, Alice. However much money he hands over, this scumbag’s a rapist, because how many sex workers are really in a position to say no?
A friend of mine worked briefly as a receptionist in a brothel and she said each girl had her own script and you could, if you were standing at the right place in the stairwell, listen to them doing it. Each girl would vocalise pretty much according to her own script, at the same point in her appointment. Later, the satisfied customers would write glowing reviews – of themselves. Boasting about how they’d made the prozzie hit the heights of ecstasy. The prostitutes had utterly convinced their customers that they were Study McStudly.
I guess the girls this douche frequents are doing a masterful number on him, if he honestly believes he’s getting love and affection as well.
@bbeaty. Maybe we need a site to upload pictures of our tits to? Then watch the money and status roll in!
Fantastic ethereal … holy shit, I missed that. Um, no, dude, you aren’t. I know an ethereal bloke when I meet one. :P
And for the record; “Hey, guys, you know those women who have sex with me for money? Well, turns out they are attracted to money” in not research.
kittehs – Exactly. I feel like there’s a tinge of racism too, because apparently Asian girls are “higher quality” than those pesky Western Women and their feminism, and how all (Southeastern) Asian women are pragmatic, gold digging sluts. Just, ew.
I’m so sick and tired of their use of “men” for themselves and “girls” for women. Fucking sexist asshole shithead douchecanoes.
I don’t believe in “ethereal” selves, but semantics aside, this dudebro’s innermost self is not fantastic. It’s small, cramped, warped, and repulsive.
I’m seeing a book in this, along the lines of The Day My Bum Went Psycho. The Day My Boobs Went Capitalist, or something?
Well, thing is, my parents lived in Thailand for quite a while, and based on everything I saw there, in this case “girls” is probably the correct word for the people who creepy dudebro is taking advantage of. I’d actually be more annoyed if he tried to make what he’s doing seem less creepy by pretending they were all adult women.
kittehs – The Day My Tits Shat Gold. *nod*
Body crimes, that’s what I was thinking of. He sounds like the poster child for dunning Kruger effect.
“For me sex is about ecstatic intimacy.”
One way intimacy… nice oxymoron. But remember how the theory goes: women are inherently solipsistic.
To people like this “intimacy” is just a pretentious way of saying “fucking”. Nothing to do with emotional intimacy at all.
Alice – yup, racist and rapist all together. Sleazoid doesn’t seem to know the difference between “orgasm while masturbating in someone else’s body” and “ecstatic intimacy,” because I’d bet a lot that the former is all he’s talking about. The only intimacy he’s talking about is physical proximity; emotionally, nope. He wouldn’t know real emotional intimacy with someone he knows as a human being and not a fuckdoll.
Ninjaed by everyone! :P
Perfect!
If tits=nipples, then don’t guys have tits too? But only feeemale tits make money…MISANDRY!!!
By his standards I am incredibly intimate with the guy who colors my hair. I suspect that this may come as an unpleasant surprise to his boyfriend.
neuroticbeagle – You’re saying that men should be reduced to a body part? MISANDRY!!11!
(1) The majority (if not all) of the women I deal with trade physical sexual favours for money.
(2) Therefore, the fact that I have money and they have sex with me proves that women only care about money!
THE LOGIC!! IT BURNS!!!!!!!
Well, sure, if you think women and girls are things to be bought and not people. Fuck you you fucking fuck.
(I may or may not be a little bit drunk right now.)
Drunk but Coherent! :D
@kittehs: He may not have any money today, but I’m fairly certain at one point he owned some really prime real estate.
IIRC, this guy claims to be in “relationships” with two womem, one 18 years old — he refers to her as “the 18″ — and one a bit older, don’t remember her age. I think he’s set them up in separate apartments, or something along those lines.
O/T but my sister works in retail and is working both Thanksgiving Day and Black Friday–with, from what I understood from my mother, almost the minimum time between the two shifts.
I think the whole “retail open on Thanksgiving” is a symptom of some really fucked up things about US culture. I mean, there are some things that have to be open all the time, but retail is not one of them.
She does get the full weekend off, though, so at least we’ll be able to see each other (I’m going down on Wednesday and coming back on Sunday).
Why is this guy boasting that he’s able to buy the services of prostitutes? Is he expecting a cooky for it?
Also, “gold diggers all the way down to their pussy juices” is unintentionally hilarious. Either miners are getting desperate, or the Earth’s mantle is weirder than I thought.
“Pussy juices” “gina tingles”, and I know I’m missing others. There is no way for these guys to refer to vaginas that doesn’t make mine want to seal itself.
QFT
@Kittenserf: “Masturbating in someone else’s body”–that’s a really really good way to put that. A creepy creepy good way. Reminds me of the passage in “The Handmaid’s Tale” where she’s describing the Ceremony.
@Falconer – true, he did! :D
@Buttercup – that’s one weird mining image!
@Alex – same here. Those dudes are so desperate to get access to that part of our bodies, yet they can’t hide their fear and loathing. They’re essentially complaining that vaginas lubricate, and that women feel sexual attraction or pleasure. Which, I suppose, makes sense, because the attraction and pleasure aren’t in response to them.
@canuck – I can’t claim credit for the masturbating description, I’m afraid! It certainly sums up what enduring PiV with one of them would be like, though.
There is something very odd about a straight man who’s repulsed by any evidence of arousal in a woman.
You get the feeling some of them never got over not being able to fuck Barbie.
Could just be that any sign that a woman might be enjoying herself ruins the pleasure they take in making her do something she hates.
This dude makes my fantastic ethereal self want to barf.
He’s taking advantage of poor women and dressing it up in purple prose. Fuck this guy. If he really had money, he’d try to pull this shit here.
Is there just something about being an “expat” that makes people like three times as likely to turn awful? Like a couple my mum used to know. Perfectly nice people until they moved to Dubai. Suddenly they turned into slave driving bastards who withheld the passport of the woman they hired to raise their kid for them, while she lived in a room about the size of their luggage.
He really sounds like he’s trying justify that the fact that the only reason any of these women are giving him the time of day is because of his money. Without that, he’s just as awful as he thinks he is.
I think it’s just further proof that they don’t actually want sex; they want to rape. They don’t want to have sex with a woman; they want to do it to her. Of course, they don’t want to call it rape, but that’s what it is.
That was regarding the whole fear of female sexual arousal.
BINGO twice over.
@bodycrimes
“Maybe we need a site to upload pictures of our tits to? Then watch the money and status roll in!”
Prefect! What could go wrong?
Also a fantastic ethereal self sounds like an amazing super power. Does it flow out of you and fight crime or something?
Zolnier – speaking for Mr K and m’self, our fantastic ethereal selves mostly get sat on by fantastic ethereal cats and dogs. :)
There have been a couple of trolls who hated women’s genitalia. Mr. Military Sockpuppet, and a couple others.
They were usually obsessed with sex. I never understood it.
Sexual Cognitive Dissonance Competition! Which will implode first, his brain or his peen?
There is no way for these guys to refer to vaginas that doesn’t make mine want to seal itself.
Same here. Every time I read anything written by an MRA, a polar bear pops its head out of my vagina and asks for a cup of hot chocolate.
Dammit Buttercup, I’ll be sending you a bill for that chart I was working on!
Alas, kittehs, I have zero money right now. Will you accept an I.O.U, for some boobs?
*rolls eyes* If tits are money, how come I could never buy dinner with my rack? And why did it cost me so much money to get rid of them? Truly if my tits were worth that much, someone would’ve been paying ME for them!
It can be a cause of sexual attraction in and of itself,
How many people are sexually attracted to money, really? I have yet to meet a woman who made a dildo out of dollars. (Though I’m sure somewhere, SOMEONE has.)
Their sexual attraction triggers are different.
I KNOW THIS BECAUSE I AM A MAN ERGO THE EXPERT ON FEMALE SEXUALITY.
It’s not just that they fuck for food.
Wow. Sex to avoid starvation. That sure sounds like a relationship.
girls with tits can get more and better quality men.
I KNOW THIS BECAUSE OF MY MANLINESS AND MY GIANT TITS.
For me sex is about ecstatic intimacy.
AND TITS AND MONEY AND MANLINESS.
Money is part of what I am; part and parcel of what I am to a woman.
This man is going to be so sad if he ever ends up broke.
RE: Kittehs
this scumbag’s a rapist, because how many sex workers are really in a position to say no?
I think that sex workers in general probably wouldn’t appreciate having someone who hasn’t been in the trade to claim what they have and haven’t experienced. Some sex workers are in a position to say yes and no to things. Some people in other lines of work AREN’T in a position to say no. I’m just not comfortable with this.
RE: bodycrimes
“Maybe we need a site to upload pictures of our tits to? Then watch the money and status roll in!”
Tom Martin was arguing we needed to do it for free. You know, to prove we weren’t gold-digging whores.
I know a few lesbian women who work in a brothel and they do such a great job of screeching in ecstasy that you can hear them in reception and I swear to God a couple of the men who were waiting to be ‘serviced’ actually said ‘Can I have that one!!’ When they leave they grin like Cheshire cats and you can see their whole I’m da bomb!! swagger as they go out the door and back to work. (They go in their lunch break and quite a few of them are married). It’s pathetic really. The irony that it’s actually lesbians faking it and taking money off them makes me want to laugh and never stop.
Plus, every woman they’ve ever had sex with has claimed it was rape afterward, even though they totally got signed, written consent notarized beforehand. Because nobody is ever allowed to withdraw consent when things start getting weird and painful.
It’s not just that they fuck for food.
It’s not just that they fuck for food.
It’s not just that they fuck for food.
It’s not just that they fuck for food.
LBT, did you read Alice’s comment here that I was agreeing with?
I didn’t say no sex workers are. I asked how many. I’m also not willing to give this scumbag the benefit of the doubt.
Also, what thebewilderness quoted.
@Buttercup, thank goodness I didn’t grab that bottle of Jones soda because this:
Made me LOL very hard.
You know, it occurs to me that I have yet to encounter the blockquote monster. Is there something wrong with me, I wonder?
I remember a piece on the ABC (the Australian public broadcasting thing, not the American thing) that tried to combat the myth that all healthy labia look the same. I wonder if that myth is part of why these guys seem to really hate vaginas.
Alex, you’ve done it now – stuck your head above the parapet.
In a best case scenario, which I’m gonna go ahead and give him, dude, you’re bragging about paying prostitutes for sex. Oh, and something about big tits. Which, honestly, if you’re in Southeast Asia, you haven’t been seeing a lot of. At least not real ones. But at the end of the day, you are bragging about paying for sex, from prostitutes, who are not golddiggers, because THEY ARE ACTUALLY PROSTITUTES. You know, like, professionals. Golddiggers are hobbyists looking to get married. C’mon, now, get your stereotypes right.
You are just her job. That’s it, pal. A job.
Shorter creeper
“Some women do survival sex work so that they can afford to eat, therefore all women are sexually aroused by money. BTW, I failed economics in high school.”
True. This guy is a creeper to the bone.
From his post: “Money-and-power-and-social-status is exactly equal to breasts.”
Really? Can your money-and-power-and-social-status feed babies? Can your money-and-power-and-social-status act as a pillow for someone you love? Can your money-and-power-and-social-status warm your hands on a winter’s night? Can they be motorboated? Can they alert you to improper use of a hyphen?
Because my breast can do all those things.