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Deprived of new women to hate in Toronto, A Voice for Menners resort to rape jokes, gay bashing

Nick Reading and Dean Esmay in the lion's den
Nick Reading and Dean Esmay amongst the counterprotesters

Pity the poor MRAs who travelled hundreds — if not thousands — of miles to AVFM’s big weekend in Toronto hoping for a confrontation with the evil feminazis that never happened. They wanted footage of angry women they could watch again and again on YouTube. They wanted new names and faces to put up on Register-Her. In short, they wanted new women to hate.

But alas, the feminists, for the most part, stayed home. And the ones who showed up were mostly dudes, from the LBGT activist group BashBack.  Making things even worse, they didn’t block any doors or try to crash AVFM’s rally. What they did, mostly, was chant things the MRAs didn’t like.

No, it was the MRAs who ignored the explicit instructions of the police to stay away from their opponents. Evidently hoping to provoke the confrontation that had been denied them thus far, a sizeable proportion of the AVFMers and Mens Rights Edmontoners in Toronto that day leave the spot designated for their rally to face off against the BashBack counter-protest.

How do we know this? Because Men’s Rights Edmonton filmed them doing it and put it on YouTube. And AVFM posted it on their site as well.

It’s kind of remarkable that they did. For one thing, it provides even more proof of how tiny the rally itself was. And it shows pretty clearly what an immature misogynistic buffoon Nick Reading of Men’s Rights Edmonton really is.

For those who don’t have the patience to watch the whole thing, here’s a quick summary:

The video starts over near where the MRA rally itself is being organized (or had just finished up). Nick Reading introduces himself.

Then, in the distance, the counterprotesters begin chanting “racist, sexist, anti-gay, MRA, go away.”

“What’s wrong with being racist and sexist?” Nick shouts in response. “It’s awesome!”

No, really. It’s about 40 seconds in.

Shortly afterwards he marches over and into the small crowd of counterprotesters, clearly itching for some kind of ideological smackdown. He’s followed by Dean Esmay, who’s indignant that MRAs are being called “anti-gay.” Which makes me wonder if he ever actually reads the website he’s the “Managing Editor” of. He yells about this for a time, then leaves. An assortment of others from the MRA crowd also show up. Some yell, others film.

Nick, who remains in the midst of the BashBackers, does his best to try to provoke, explaining his Patriarchy Party candidacy and generally acting like an ass. Eventually he elicits an angry reaction from several group members by declaring, roughly 5:50 into the video, that rape is funny; indeed, that “sometimes it’s hilarious.”

But that’s as close as he gets to provoking the confrontation he’s clearly itching for. After several minutes, apparently having run out of inspiration, he finally decides to leave.

And, scene.

This embarrassing video is in fact the first real footage of the events in Toronto that AVFM has put online so far — all the others they’ve put up have been interviews after the rally.

But I guess the folks at AVFM figured that posting this was preferable to posting video of the anemic rally itself.

And it’s true that the counterprotesters don’t exactly come across brilliantly in the video either. Despite their admirable restraint in the face of the MRA provocations, their overheated rhetoric is often way off the mark, and their old-school chants seem faintly ridiculous in an age of YouTube. And, seriously, wearing pink hammers and sickles to show support for LBGT folks being persecuted in Russia today? Stalin made male homosexuality punishable by five years in a labor camp; that law wasn’t repealed until 1993.

But it is really hard to see how Nick Reading telling a group of mostly gay men that rape is “hilarious” helps to solve the “crisis” facing men and boys– the ostensible reason for the rally in the first place.

Even more interesting than Reading’s abortive attempts to bait the BashBack protesters in Toronto were the reactions of AVFM readers to the video itself. Deprived of new women to hate, they turned instead to bashing the gay men in the video instead.

Mike Hunt — oh, very funny! — offers this totally not homophobic at all assessment of the BashBack activists:

I fully support gay rights and I am the last person to discriminate against gays, but did anyone else notice that all of these protesters seem to be gay? And not self assured, confident in who they are gay, but feminine and completely out of touch with any aspect of themselves that is masculine gay?

JinnBottle, meanwhile, claimed that AVFM had cured his homophobia — no, really — but that these protesters were making him think that maybe he should return to his old ways.

I came to AVfM definitely not “the last person to discriminate against Gays” – at least in my thinking. That thinking specifically took the form of repellence to the ubiquitous ball-busting of (mostly straight, but even other gay) men by gay guys I’d witnessed for 35-plus years in both the politico-social and personal spheres, ever since gay men had “come out”, about 1969.

Subsequently I saw that some of the clearest thinkers, potent social observers and eloquent writers on AVfM are gay – and bi … I rethought my thinking, and thought … the Radfem/Misandric Gay Guy was becoming a thing passing.

Now along come this fresh troupe of Gay misandrists and feminist allies representative of the old notion that, if not *all* gay males are self-hating masochist insulated style-boys, then a majority are.

Riku, meanwhile, didn’t hem or haw or pretend that he was anything but a bigot — and went right for the rape jokes:

You should have raped them guys. These guys literally begged for it. That’s what you were there for, no? 🙁 Thought I’d see some rapes on the event.

AVFM: Where jokes about raping gay men are a form of human rights activism.

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katz
11 years ago

See, the thing about symbology is that symbols are a form of communication and they’re useless unless other people interpret them the same way you do. I hear people constantly arguing that Symbol (or word) X should mean Y, but it’s all moot because unless people who see X mostly think Y, then that’s just not what it means, no matter how good an argument you make for it.

So yeah, people think of the Soviet Union when they see the hammer and sickle, whether that’s fair or not.

Michael Søndberg Olsen

I’ll drink to that!

Thomas Moore
Thomas Moore
11 years ago

This link describes how women are the heart and soul of the homophobic movement. The ridiculous attempts of feminists to demand people live in a certain narrow way, trying to cleanse everyone of all inappropriate feelings and words, are doomed to failure, just as are Christian attempts to legislate and enforce morality.

katz
11 years ago

Oh dear.

When I saw the contextless link, I wondered if it was a troll, but then it was a cool link so I thought maybe not. Alas.

As for feminists being the cause of homophobia: We know.

kittehserf
11 years ago

It may come as a shock to you, Thomas Moore, but women aren’t a hivemind. Women hold varied views from humane through to reprehensible, just as men do. Modern feminism doesn’t claim women are morally superior to men, or all alike, or anything of the sort.

You sound confused in saying that feminism demands everyone “live in a certain narrow way”. I’d have said that was more the MRAs’ style, or the homophobes. Y’know, women not allowed to work, not allowed independence, not allowed basic safety, while men are allowed all those things; LGBT people not allowed those things either, and not even allowed to form relationships. I don’t see feminism putting people into such narrow confines.

But of course your complaint is about anyone resisting bigotry, isn’t it? You think straight men not being boss of everyone else and being able to be as racist, misogynistic and homophobic as they want is the problem.

And if you don’t, then you’re a lousy communicator, because that’s implicit in everything you wrote.

Thomas Moore
Thomas Moore
11 years ago

This article does show how pathetic the MRA is. So why does this site cater to boring MRA trolls like Good, while banning and marginalizing the Christian pro-woman traditionalist movement which is now distancing itself from the MRA? Could it be that the male administrators and their army of women have a paralyzing fear of the Lord?

sparky
sparky
11 years ago

No, just a paralyzing fear of idiocy.

Thomas Moore
Thomas Moore
11 years ago

I’m not claiming that the homophobic woman is a feminist. I’m discussing how her case shows how feminism is doomed to failure since feminism will never force all women to agree with feminism, or the movements associated with it such as LGBT. The grandson must go to his straight grandfather for protection.

serrana
serrana
11 years ago

feminism will never force all women to agree with feminism

All women don’t need to agree with feminism for feminists to become a majority in society.

I’m discussing how her case shows how feminism is doomed to failure

You haven’t discussed anything, shitslice. You just dropped in a random HuffPo link.

Michael Søndberg Olsen

“feminism is doomed to failure since feminism will never force all women to agree with feminism,” Yeah, THAT’S how reality works. Either everyone agrees completely on everything or nothing happens.

SittieKitty
11 years ago

The ridiculous attempts of feminists to demand people live in a certain narrow way, trying to cleanse everyone of all inappropriate feelings and words

This looks like words, but it makes no sense…

ivyshoots
11 years ago

katz, it’s totally fair for people to think what they are told to think, especially of no one else refutes it. I just think it’s also fair to inform people that they haven’t heard the whole story.

No matter how many times I see people say that “feminism” means special rights for women rather than equal rights for all, I refuse to allow them to change the meaning. It sounds like you’re arguing that if they say it doesn’t mean equality, “then that’s just not what it means.”

kittehserf
11 years ago

“Could it be that the male administrators and their army of women have a paralyzing fear of the Lord?”

Oooh, we’re an army now! Can we design our own uniform?

I thought “fear the Lord” was something good Christians are supposed to do, so what are you whining about?

Has it occurred to you that there’s a mixture of people here, some of different religious faiths, some of none? Or that the Christian god doesn’t have a single thing to do with the blog’s purpose, which is mocking misogyny, except when some jackass trots out Biblical BS as a justification for hating on women? Even then it’s rare, since the MRM is the blog’s principal source, not turds like the Republicans with their “legitimate rape” and associated crap.

You really are confused.

markb
markb
11 years ago

“a) that’s not really “the feminists’” (for we are possessed of a single mind – a oneness of thought) idea of how patriarchy works, is it? Surely a lampoon would at least be based on an accurate representation? I thought the point was that it’s a fairly subtle undercurrent most of the time?”

Whether or not there are any feminists who think this way (it’s a pretty big world filled with all kinds of people, so who knows), I really don’t think it’s going to be recognizable as “feminist thinking” to anyone outside the MRA circle. It seems more like an in-joke that they don’t realize is an in-joke.

hellkell
hellkell
11 years ago

A troll who says feminism is doomed to failure? How original.

Hey Tommy, you know what failure is? The MRM.

sparky
sparky
11 years ago

Thomas Moore: One woman is so homophobic she disowns her own son (which is vile); so the feminist AND the LGBT movement is doomed? Does not follow at all.

sparky
sparky
11 years ago

kitteh: Wait, I’m confused. I thought we were Personality Disordered Henchpersons? Now we’re part of David’s Army? Is that like Dumbledore’s Army? Cause that would be cool.

Tulgey Logger
Tulgey Logger
11 years ago

GWW’s idea of what a reasonable person will understand is deeply, comically at odds with what a reasonable person will actually understand, GWW not exactly being a reasonable person. Could it be she’s just roleplaying as an ideological misogynist, and simply expects us to understand that no one could possibly believe what she claims to? If so, bravo, GWW, bravo.

Also, I’m sad no one got my Mr. Mxyzptlk joke, but I’m pleasantly surprised that someone was reminded of a much more obscure DC comic than Superman instead. All in all, it’s a wash.

Thomas Moore
Thomas Moore
11 years ago

I know the MRM is a failure. So I command that you unequivocally ban Lesser Good. Otherwise you are siding with the MRM against the restorationists of Christian civilization. Atheists/materialists always band together despite whatever perspicacious disagreements.

grumpycatisagirl
11 years ago

I wasn’t aware that this site *caters* to Good or has banned any movements (how does a blog ban a movement all by itself, anyway?)

leftwingfox
11 years ago

I’m discussing how her case shows how feminism is doomed to failure since feminism will never force all women to agree with feminism, or the movements associated with it such as LGBT.

This makes NO sense. Feminism has succeeded in large part because it can convince majorities (including both men and women) that individual feminist positions are worthwhile. Women can vote, women can work, women deserve equal pay for equal work, women should not be raped, women should not be discriminated against legally.

Equality is a march towards improvement, not a single worldview all must align with perfectly, lest society collapse.

leftwingfox
11 years ago

I know the MRM is a failure. So I command that you unequivocally ban Lesser Good. Otherwise you are siding with the MRM against the restorationists of Christian civilization. Atheists/materialists always band together despite whatever perspicacious disagreements.

blink.

blink blink.

What planet did you just arrive from?

kittehserf
11 years ago

Tulgey – I got it, sorry I didn’t say anything, I thought it was funny! I’m old enough to remember Mr Mxyzptlk in the comics AND the cartoon in the ’60s.

sparky – maybe Personality Disordered Henchperson could be one of the lower ranks in David’s army?

(Louis said this morning “we are but the cats’ henchthings” which seemed like a statement of Eternal Truth to me.)

I know the MRM is a failure. So I command that you unequivocally ban Lesser Good. Otherwise you are siding with the MRM against the restorationists of Christian civilization. Atheists/materialists always band together despite whatever perspicacious disagreements.

Do we have a Mr Al sock here? This OTT Christian stuff has been his schtick the last few times he’s trolled. I’m dropping the Dark Lord a line.

Tulgey Logger
Tulgey Logger
11 years ago

This link describes how women are the heart and soul of the homophobic movement.

Did you read your link? It was about one incident. One single incident. It describes nothing of the sort, and is terrible evidence if you’re using it to argue for that conclusion.

The ridiculous attempts of feminists to demand people live in a certain narrow way, trying to cleanse everyone of all inappropriate feelings and words, are doomed to failure,

Wow, I thought the whole idea was to treat women like human fucking beings. Silly me.

just as are Christian attempts to legislate and enforce morality.

Why are those doomed to failure? They were pretty successful in their goals for a long time. You really don’t know what you’re talking about.

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