Orgasms, away?
Fellas! Better hold on to yourselves, because I’ve got some terrible news for you.
Actually, you’d better NOT hold on to yourselves. Because this is the news, straight from that always 100% reliable news source, the Men’s Rights subreddit:
I wonder if manginal orgasms are still allowed?
Posted on January 8, 2013, in antifeminism, MRA, oppressed men, rape, reddit, sex and tagged men's rights, MRA, reddit, sex. Bookmark the permalink. 777 Comments.









“Also mariner tales of tentacled monsters that could sink ship? Maybe not as made of fancy and myth as we thought…they do seem to attack whales…”
There’s a running joke with my Nordic family that the Kraken is a vegetarian, and only eats wood.
:)
Yes Moonz. That’s not to detract from the absolute horror of what he went through and witnessed (in fact I have read quite a bit about his ordeal, so I would disagree that he has been ‘overlooked’ as is suggested).
It’s just… well, she was [can I please quit with you and just find a little island somewhere where there are loads of happy sloths to cuddle?], And he was knocked out so that they could do what they did.
There’s no twisting it. He’s not feeling ‘left out’, so why are they?
http://news.sky.com/story/1033574/india-gang-rape-victims-friend-speaks-of-attack
http://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/asia/india-male-friend-of-gangrape-victim-breaks-silence-over-murder-8439180.html
The kraken is a panaque?
Well, I can sort of see alphabetpal’s logic. If you a the kind of man who would only orgasm in the course of doing things to a woman’s body if she gives you permission, you are a mangina. Since it is now illegal to do things to a woman’s body without her permission, it follows that only manginas are allowed orgasms. At least in the vicinity of another person.
And of course anything involving unsimulated sex with children, which has been illegal for decades.
In those three categories, even possession is illegal (which as far as I’m aware includes JPEGs and MPEGs on hard drives – this is certainly the case with child porn), though the legislation involving bestiality and violence is comparatively new so it hasn’t been tested much in court.
But with most other pornography, possession in the UK is fine, although supply can be proscribed in certain circumstances. For instance, openly pornographic videos (as opposed to Serious Art Movies that just happen to contain graphic, sometimes actual sex scenes) can only be sold in licensed sex shops, and can’t be sent via mail order from within the UK.
“Well, I can sort of see alphabetpal’s logic. If you a the kind of man who would only orgasm in the course of doing things to a woman’s body if she gives you permission, you are a mangina. Since it is now illegal to do things to a woman’s body without her permission, it follows that only manginas are allowed orgasms. At least in the vicinity of another person.”
Of course, because Feminazis have made all heterosexual sex (that’s not consensual) illegal! It’s a travesty!
I love this little article though. It shows just how far down the rabbit hole MRAs can go. Now some of them are insisting that feminism is part of the military-industrial complex and that their plan is to strengthen our military through refusal of orgasms. Brilliant!
Kiwi:
“? Illegal = against the law, banned = requires legislation or regulation, so how can something be illegally banned by a government? Logic, you fail at it.”
I think a possible interpretation could be that something has been banned by a law and the speaker thinks that the law is unconstitional, or that it has been banned by regulation, which the speaker think in conflict with laws passed.
“? Illegal = against the law, banned = requires legislation or regulation, so how can something be illegally banned by a government? Logic, you fail at it.”
“Legally banned” is redundantly redundant.
When you think about it, the sexual shit that’s illegal is pretty damn horrible stuff. Apparently you’re a mangina according to abnoy if you’re turned on by anything other than
Child porn/sex
Voyeurism
bestiality (not illegal in every state)
rape/rape porn
necrophilia
extreme violence
murder
“Now some of them are insisting that feminism is part of the military-industrial complex”
Feminists are the only people I know who use the phrase military-industrial complex, and they are all definitely about dismantling it because it’s stupid.
I left out child porn because I assumed that Abony might have a shred of human decency and at least admit children don’t have agency.
The India article reminds me that for the MRA every culture is going to be too feminist.
If anyone needs an antidote to that AVfM piece on India, click here.
On the connections between lead and crime, I think it’s really interesting/promising. I’m plunking some links to the studies I’ve found on this, so that Argenti and others can dig into the methodology:
1. Nevin (2000) Note: PDF.
2. Nevin (2007) Note: PDF.
3. Mielke & Zahran (2012) Via ScienceDirect, may be paywalled.
I can’t remember the number of links that gets you modded, so I’m going to plunk another link in my next comment.
OT and trigger warning: Jazabel covering story of a woman stabbed by a street harasser
http://jezebel.com/5974261/sf-street-harassment-stabbing-is-a-great-reminder-that-catcalling-isnt-a-joke
Here’s the Mother Jones article on the subject. I think pecunium or someone might have dropped this earlier, but just in case people missed it…
It looks like that numbers are very correlated, worldwide, and no exceptions have been found yet. Plus, it makes sense logically; it’s generally accepted that lead poisoning damages the brain in ways that relate to cognition, impulse control, etc. And when people have mapped areas with higher violent crime rates and areas with higher lead contamination rates, they match to a very high degree.
Pear_tree – that’s a big assumption with the trolls here.
I do like Abony for Abnoy. Is there such a thing as a Freudian typo?
I can’t make myself read that article about the Indian rape. Bad enough that scumbag in India saying the victim should have sweetly appealed to her rapists’ better natures, but MRAs essentially complaining that teh menz are treated SO BADLY there in the wake of this crime and so many others just like it, is vomit material. Hell, the point of the attention with this one is highlighting how common this extreme violence against women and girls is. Would these creatures think “men are treated as beasts” if they had lost someone* they cared for this way? Would they think it unfair of the father of another victim to complain? This other victim was tied up and raped and she died too. She was TWO YEARS OLD. And a woman was gang raped and beaten to death just days after the Delhi murder. Yeah, it’s soooo unjust to complain about anything going on in India.
*Unlikely, I know. MRAs seem to have little capacity to love anything save their boners and their imaginary** grievances.
**Real grievances and actually doing anything about them don’t appeal nearly as much to this lot.
David, keep an eye out for what the MRM has to say about this story I read today:
http://thinkprogress.org/health/2013/01/09/1420251/gonorrhea-cases-resistant/
Antibiotic resistant gonorrhea has arrived in North America.
@Ithiliana
Yeesh! That headline is enough to send shivers down my spine.
In other crazy MRA news, someone on Kotaku is trying to convince me that The Violence against women act gave women the ability to legally murder their husbands and that Feminists support the legislation because they’re for the murder of innocent men.
Oh, Kotaku, you never cease to amaze me.
@cloudiah:
1. I love reading Avicenna. Thank you for spreading the word about that article.
2. Re: lead poisoning/violence, thanks for all the links. That is a pretty amazing correlation. I guess the reason we don’t hear about it much is that people tend to think of lead as an old issue
@atomicgrizzly
Holy shit! It isn’t the Violence of Women Acts for crying out loud. How would anyone think that our mostly male, mostly married legislature would ever pass that? (Or is that the reason it failed this time?)
(I don’t know why I keep trying to find logical consistency in this lot, but I can’t help it.)
VAWA giving women a license to murder their husbands is a common theme among MRAs, since supposedly “battered woman defense” is a get-out-of-jail-free card even for women who weren’t battered I guess. The 1994 VAWA required a study of the role of expert testimony on battered women syndrome; the 1997 study recommended using the non-gendered terminology “battering and its effects.” The defense has been used successfully by men as well as women.
Confession: This is all cribbed from the mighty Wiki, but I followed all of the links and it’s pretty well researched.
lumi, I hadn’t known about Avicenna until I followed a link from Pharyngula, and now I’m subscribed to another blog! Soon I won’t have time to work since I’ll just need to read blogs all day long. Sigh.
@cloudiah
I’ve heard (and I wish I could remember where) that it isn’t that successful a defense anyway. If true, that makes all of their whining about legally killing men even stupider.
It’s not like the ‘battered women’s defense” even gets women who were battered out of serving serious time. It might have been here I first found this: http://www.umich.edu/~clemency/women_summaries.html (although many of those cases are from the enlightened olden days, like 1990’s /sarcasm)
Heh, I started reading Pharyngula a couple years ago, and now have most of FTB in my feeds! Good thing I’m a student and don’t have to be productive most of the time :)
I meant, unenlightened, of course (hey, just happy I linked correctly!)
I believe raising battery has been more useful in mitigating sentences, rather than getting people off completely. But feminists definitely have supported it, therefore EVIL EVIL MUST BE STOPPED. Otherwise, we’d have to have a thoughtful, reasoned discussion about IPV and clearly that would be a terrible thing to have happen.
“Holy shit! It isn’t the Violence of Women Acts for crying out loud. How would anyone think that our mostly male, mostly married legislature would ever pass that? (Or is that the reason it failed this time?)”
He was trying to disprove the idea of a patriarchy:
Here’s the full conversation:
Him:
“”oh please. anytime a woman writes an opinion piece it’s “not journalism” but when a man does it it’s “truth”.”
Really? You really think that? Let me guess, you believe in the patriarchy.”
Me:
“I do! Picture: GOP house committee heads before they added one woman.
http://img.gawkerassets.com/img/18aghesw649agjpg/original.jpg”
Him:
“And yet men pass laws like VAWA that are not only a benefit to women, but also criminalize men.
Believing in Patriarchy is like believing in God. There simply is no prove for that and just like believing in God, it can become really dangerous.”
Me:
“The Violence against women act? You mean the bill that criminalizes men who beat women? Yeah, let me break out the violin for them…
BTW, the GOP, responsible for that diverse group of people up there, is also against VAWA. Seems there’s something of a connection. I just can’t put my finger on it.”
Him:
You couldn’t be more wrong.
The VAWA is based on the Duluth Power and Control Wheel model, which falsely presumes that all domestic violence is perpetrated by men.
Example: A man is being beaten by his woman (probably with an object as violent women tend to do that), he calls the police, the police arrives, the police arrests him.
What happened? VAWA happened. With this Police is forced to arrest the man immediately and ask questions later. Maybe he will get free, but who protects this man from his woman?
Nobody, which is why those women are free to shoot their husbands and say that he beat them. Yes, VAWA helps there too. Thank god it’s gone for now.
You know with laws like this in place – which always seem to exclude men – one has to wonder if we are not actually living in a Matriarchy.
But i’m being cynical now. I’m giving you the benefit of a doubt, you seem to be different, unlike most feminists, you listen to what is have to say, even though i am a white male! The biggest crime of my life, apparently.
Just a warning though: If you run around and tell the world that you’re a feminist, you should at least know what feminists actually do. What Organisations like NOW do. How they actively push for laws like VAWA, ro others that give women and ONLY women benefits, while at the same time yell about women empowerment.
If you really think that women should’ve the right to kill their men whenever they like, please continue to call yourself a feminist, if you don’t, call yourself a humanist. Otherwise you’d have to stand up to the misdoing of others.
Me:
Being a white male isn’t a crime, but ignoring white male privilege makes you wrong.
You’re misrepresenting the law completely. It did not make it impossible for women to be charged with domestic violence, nor did it legalize murder.
It actually saved the lives of countless women by helping them regain control. Not all domestic violence is committed by men, but 80% of it is, enough for law enforcement to take claims of male on female violence seriously, but not enough to arrest men without cause (no, this wasn’t legalized by VAWA either).
“How they actively push for laws like VAWA, ro others that give women and ONLY women benefits”
As opposed to the benefits white men already get, like higher pay, less fear of rape and an almost non-existent history of systematic oppression. Also, people don’t feel like they have the right to your body. You cry about laws like VAWA and affirmative action, but ignore the factors that made them necessary in the first place.
“If you really think that women should’ve the right to kill their men whenever they like, please continue to call yourself a feminist”
That’s a nice strawman you have there.
“It’s not like the ‘battered women’s defense” even gets women who were battered out of serving serious time. It might have been here I first found this: http://www.umich.edu/~clemency/women_summaries.html (although many of those cases are from the enlightened olden days, like 1990′s /sarcasm)”
Those women MUST be stone-cold killers! They’re not even hot!
And then there is the fact that VAWA has saved men’s lives, because battered women can escape abusers through other means than murder. Apparently, not killing men is also misandry.
Wow, atomicgrizzly, you’ve found yourself a current r/mensrights reader. He hits all the talking points.
Also misandry: the fact lumi probably just made some lurking MRA’s head explode.
I love it when they get all condescending about feminism, like despite all the pushback from the culture and all the “I’m not a feminist, but…,” you just mindlessly decided to apply the label to yourself while knowing nothing about it.
grizzly, is this person YOUR facebook friend? I’m hoping that he’s a FoaF.
“I love it when they get all condescending about feminism, like despite all the pushback from the culture and all the “I’m not a feminist, but…,” you just mindlessly decided to apply the label to yourself while knowing nothing about it.”
Funny thing about that line. I went to the NOW website to see what horrors awaited, only to find articles on *gasp!* marriage equality and pro-choice legislation!
@inurashii
It’s just some guy from the comments section of Kotaku.
oh Kotaku. Right. Reading up in the thread.
Yeah that site is a fucking cesspit.
Isn’t the logic that all relationships involve people hitting each other, so any woman could claim domestic violence at any time?
It’s a shame that the Kotaku commenters are so shit, because the articles are often really good. IO9 is probably the Gawkerverse site I get most disappointed by when I scroll down, though. Great writers, but then stuff like “10 awesome female engineers in scifi” gets filled up with notes from guys’ boners.
atomicgrizzly: it’s like you had a run in with a more coherent NWO.
lumi: I’m disappointed by all the Gawkerverse since Kinja. Way to kill a community.
Ok, I’ll finish catching up in a moment, but holy shit fuck damn! I’m overhearing my father fucking laughing about how “they” can’t tear gas him and, wait for it, he’ll fuck their shut up…some one come rescue me!
…and I’m the motherfucking crazy one…
“Wow, atomicgrizzly, you’ve found yourself a current r/mensrights reader. He hits all the talking points.”
I’m surprised a message didn’t come up saying “A wild MRA appears!”
“Yeah that site is a fucking cesspit.”
They tell all feminists the same thing too: “Go back to Jezebel!”
atomicgrizzly — I have a ballad just for them, which is partly true, I think I’m going o return to practicing since I can’t hear anything else with my headphones on…*sigh*
cloudiah — I’ll check into those studies when I’m not being driven extra nuts >.<
Keep calm and headphones on, Argenti! :-)
“It’s a shame that the Kotaku commenters are so shit, because the articles are often really good.”
I agree. They’re always the first to get the major video game related scoops and they always have interesting commentary. Their community can be pretty atrocious.
“I’m disappointed by all the Gawkerverse since Kinja. Way to kill a community.”
You get used to it after a while, but it always sucks.
“Keep calm and headphones on, Argenti!”
He’s moved on to some sort of power toll that I can’t hear myself over, but whatever, I’m actually figuring out Dominant, the high notes are still all either flat or sharp, and that section’s timing needs help, but the rest of it I got very nearly correct.
…that really doesn’t sound like “getting the hang of it” does it? I’m trying to play this, so anything resembling getting it right is a start, I’ve got the first ~1 and last ~1:30 nearly down, and considering it’s under 4 min that’s more than half! And my fingers, neck, wrist, and most other joints from the waist up, hate me for it *sigh*
Well, this is pretty hilarious.
Article linked to actually says,
Emphasis provided because MRAs are extra dumb. Seriously. It says right in the article!!!
@Argenti Aertheri
Sounds like there’s two violin parts at the same time. Good luck with that. I’ve never had an ear for music.
@Cloudiah
“It says right in the article!!!”
Facts are inconvenient for MRAs.
“Or (kindest interpretation) spins out a bit about getting hair of any sort in his mouth.”
@kitteh, that made me think of my kid screaming in anguish while bathing at 3-y-o. I went running in and he had his hand out with a look of horror “MOM!! HAIR!!!!!”
One hair he couldn’t get off his hand….
Baths=mysandry.
atomicgrizzly — there’s a violin and a cello, I think.
Incoming epically long post regarding those lead paint articles, I’m going to have to review the second one after dinner, but the one I did is convincing enough that I’m not going bother nagging the not-an-ex about the paywall (perks of knowing grad students!)
Understanding international crime trends: The legacy of preschool lead exposure
Rick Nevin
National Center for Healthy Housing, USA
Received 12 August 2006; received in revised form 20 February 2007; accepted 23 February 2007 Available online 23 April 2007
“Stretesky and Lynch (2001) found USA counties with high 1990 air lead, mostly from industrial emissions, had 1989–1991 murder rates four times higher than counties with low air lead, after controlling for nine air pollutants and six sociological factors.”
“Nevin (2000) found 1941–1975 gasoline lead use explained 90% of the 1964–1998 variation in USA violent crime. The best statistical-fit lag of 23-years is consistent with neural damage in infancy and peak ages of violent offending. Nevin showed a best-fit lag of 18 years for gasoline lead versus 1960–1998 murders, and 21 years for per capita paint lead use versus 1900–1959 murders. The difference in best-fit murder lags is consistent with when paint and gas lead most affected preschool lead exposure.”
“National trends in average blood lead and the use of lead in gasoline were highly correlated, with median R2 of 0.94 in Greece, Spain, South Africa, Venezuela, Belgium, Sweden, Mexico, Finland, Canada, New Zealand, Italy, Switzerland, Britain and the USA (Thomas et al., 1999).”
…correlations range from a perfect inverse correlation (-1) to a perfect correlation (1)…0.94 is about as clear a correlation as you can get (caveat — correlation is still not causation, but I just said holy shit aloud at that)
The N values aren’t impressively high, but they aren’t impressively low either, considering the nature of the data, there are probably enough data points for this to be representative.
“Table 5 shows blood lead with an 18-year lag is significant in the combined nation murder regression and Britain, but Canada has a shorter best-fit and average (N 1⁄4 209) and unemployment is insignificant (N 1⁄4 178). The preschool blood lead is not significant in murder regressions best-fit time lag is 18–19 years for the USA, New Zealand, for Australia or West Germany.”
“Average black lead exposure might have changed little from the mid-1960s to the early-1970s as declining lead paint hazards offset the rise in ambient air lead, but severe poisoning prevalence likely rose among black children living near urban high- ways. A stronger association between severe lead poisoning and violence is also consistent with racial differences in late-1970s blood lead and early-1990s juvenile arrest rates. Average 1976–1980 blood lead for black children ages 6–36 months was 50% above the average for white children, but blacks were six times more likely to have blood lead of 30–39 mcg/dL and eight times more likely to be over 40mcg/dL. Those children were juveniles when the 1990–1994 black juvenile burglary arrest rate was 60% higher than the white rate, but the black juvenile violent crime arrest rate was five times higher and the black juvenile murder rate was eight times higher.”
That’s one hell of a correlation.
“It is striking that preschool blood lead is highly significant at best-fit lags consistent with peak offending ages for each crime category.”
…yes, yes it is.
“Changes in R2 when unemployment is added are also consistent with other evidence that unemployment has a substantively small effect on property crime (burglary and most index crime) and no clear relationship with violence.”
Shove it MRAs.
“Needleman et al. (2003) found that social factors, including race and single-parents, raised delinquency risk for youths with lower bone lead. Preschool lead exposure is highly correlated with social factors because poor children are more likely to live in older housing with deteriorated paint, and black children were concentrated in cities with higher air lead. Social factors could constitute independent offending risks for those with no preschool lead exposure, and/or interact with lead exposure to increase offending risk, but temporal trends suggest any independent social factor effect is small relative to the lead effect.”
No really, shove it.
“Social trends cannot explain why the 1990s homicide decline was so pronounced among juvenile offenders, and especially black juveniles, but blood lead trends can.”
Which explains why looking for social trends has been an um, murky endeavor.
“Further research is needed to specify the mechanisms by which blood lead affects behavior, and how blood lead interacts with other risk factors, but policy implications of this study and related research are clear: The association between crime and preschool blood lead should lend urgency to global efforts to eliminate preschool lead exposure.”
That’s about as “we are sure of this” as you can get and still be published (peer review frowns on hubris, and with good reason)
“I would disagree that he has been ‘overlooked’ as is suggested”
The sense I was getting was that he released his statement when he was ready, which, considering, could take someone who’d experienced such a horror some time.
I had a conversation with a guy once and cited many sources including the *(#*($ US census. He cited almost all MRM folks. Then he had to the gall to call my sources biased.
LOL heathenbee!
Makes me wonder if your son was channelling my mum. She gets very thing about hair. I have long, strong hair (strong enough to embroider with) and it grows very fast, so naturally sheds a lot as well. You would think I was losing it AT her the way she reacts to seeing a hair lying anywhere. I suspect she’s had a bit of a long-hair phobia all her life, ’cause her mother made her keep it in long plaits and she didn’t get to cut it short till she left school (this is in the late 1940s).
Well, right-wingers did randomly decide the 2010 census was unconstitutional…
Completely off topic but here’s a video of series 5 & 6 of Doctor Who reimagined as a 16-bit RPG which I thought some of you might like. I squeed quite a bit:
@katz
I know and I’m laughing at it all over again. Why take a stance that proves you’ve never read the thing? It’s like being trolled by pell, but it was a (too big to be just funny) group of Republicans!
@nat, click to see a great idea for a tardis!
http://cheezburger.com/46172417
OT but live kittehs are awake (well, some of them)
http://new.livestream.com/FosterKittenCam/RipleysKittens
ZOMG Freitag that is so awesome!
I’ve been meaning to save up for this Doctor Who hoodie for ages now but never seem to have $40 spare before another blooming bill needs paying >:(
http://cheezburger.com/46172417
Didn’t embed. Ass.
That is a great hoodie! My niece has a birthday next month and now I know what to get her.
Thanks!
Since my last comment was silly long, I’ll keep this one short.
“Multiple regression analysis was used to assess the relationship between changes in gasoline lead exposure and changes in violent crimes per 100,000 population, based on the crime rates for murder, rape, robbery, aggravated assault, and all violent crime reported in each year from 1960 through 1998 (US Department of Justice).”
“Temporal trends in IQ, violent crime, and unwed pregnancy show a striking association with changes in blood lead levels and gasoline lead exposure for very young children. The trends in IQ also suggest that the IQ to blood lead slope increases at lower blood lead levels. Although crime and unwed pregnancy rates are obviously affected by a variety of factors, temporal trends in lead exposure appear to be a significant factor associated with subsequent trends in these undesirable social behaviors.”
Yeah, correlation is not causation, but overwhelming correlation sure as shit implies causation. And it’d be damned unethical to test this theory (intentionally expose infants to lead?!)
Argenti – I’ll watch that fish video tonight (no sound on the work pc). :)
“Assume writers know what they’re doing” *dies*
Kitteh — you definitely need the sound! For best effect you should find a way to randomly have it start while you aren’t paying attention, the “huh? Oh it’s the fish” factor makes it extra adorable.
LOL what a cool idea!
I’m reminded of less-important-than-he-thinks-he-is Slymepitter and ex-Pharyngula troll Franc Hoggle and the bizarre story about jerking off to a camgirl in a one-on-one session that got him banned from Pharyngula. At the time no one could figure out exactly why he felt the need to try to rub PZ’s nose in it when it’s something damn near no one could possibly give a flying fuck about. I guess this explains it.
Thanks Argenti, I thought the studies looked pretty solid but it is nice to have that confirmed by someone with a better grasp of both math and statistics.
teiresias – that sounds so typical of these creeps. They seem so fixated on non-consensual sex, or sex with inanimate things (pictures of women and so on) and then wax indignant when reminded that the first is rape and nobody gives a shit about the second, except insofar as it emphasises what misogynist losers they are (a la DKM).
@Argenti Aetheri
We had a lot of fish when I was very young (too young to remember what they were), but they were so much fun. Although me strongest memory of them is of one of our fish having babies in one of those little hangs-in-the-bigger-tank tanks and the baby fish swam out through the holes and got eaten. Each day, there were fewer and fewer little teeny fishies until there were none. :(
(Not the only pets we had eat their young, but the first.)
cloudiah — this is almost too perfect to be true territory, I sent them to my not-an-ex for a second opinion, but idk if ze will get to them, what with grad school and all :)
We met as research methods lab partners though, so I’m sure ze knows the statistics (and, unlike me, is still using them)
It may well be just that strong of a correlation, but after so many years of theories that failed to really explain the problem I’m a bit wary of one overarching theory covering all the bases this well. The math does check out though, and correlation is not causation but it looks solid.
@The Kitteh’s
They can’t handle the fact that no one cares because they can’t fathom being that unimportant. (Then, you couple that with sex, which is even more important to them than themselves if such a thing is possible, and they really flip out with “pay attention to me and my sex life” antics.)