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Not-Misogyny, Explained at Last

But THIS man clearly LOVES women.

There’s one kind of person you meet again and again in the manosphere: the man who hates women, but insists that he’s not a misogynist. Some of them will even tell you that you calling them a misogynist is equivalent to a white person calling a black person the n-word. And they seem to even believe this.

You may find yourself wondering: how is it that a person who clearly hates women, who says hateful things about them constantly, who spends all his time reading blogs and message boards devoted to the notion that women are evil bitches — how is it that such a person can come to believe that they aren’t a woman-hater?

Well, you’re in luck, because not that long ago one of these fellows gave us a glimpse into the mysterious inner workings of the mind of the misogynist who thinks he’s not a misogynist.

In a post on the Men’s Rights subreddit he titled “Next time someone calls you a misogynist,” cabin5 unpacked all his weird rationalizations and laid them out for everyone to see.

This is long, but worth reading. It’s very revealing. And also sort of hilarious, both in its total lack of awareness and in its garden-variety ignorance and stupidity.

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Uh, dude, one part of the definition of “hatred” is “extreme aversion.” Which is also one definition of, you guessed it, repulsion. If you’re repulsedby women — or at least by “the modern, confrontational, American toxic female” — it’s safe to say that yes, indeed, you hate women, or at least the vast majority of the women that you meet on an everyday basis here in the US. Also, if you post in the Men’s Rights subreddit, and regularly use phrases like “the modern, confrontational, American toxic female,” it’s pretty much like having the words “I hate women” tattooed on your forehead.

Elsewhere in the thread he offers further insights into these terrible American “females.”

Western women tend to be butch & mannish- you would have to be practically homosexual to be attracted to one. I’m not homosexual. And they’re like crappy zerox copies of men without any of the positive qualities. …

Possibly the most repulsive things would be their complete unaccountability & the fact that on average, they’re venerally diseased whores who’ve had 57 cocks in them by the age of 25. Would you want your child coming out of that vagina? It’s nauseating.

Dude, I don’t want your child coming out of any vagina. Also, it’s “xerox.”

These are all the thoughts of a grown ass man — who claims to have a daughter over the age of 18 — who honestly thinks he’s somehow not a misogynist.

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Posted on December 22, 2012, in alpha asshole cock carousel, antifeminism, disgusting women, evil women, hate, homophobia, men who should not ever be with women ever, misogyny, MRA, reddit, western women suck and tagged , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 252 Comments.

  1. And oh, if you’re complaining about lack of quantity and quality of female representation in the mass media, then make your own mass media.

    Awww. *pats Abnoy on the head*

    You’re precious.

  2. @ Molly moon- Wow, someone actually said that? God, someone got into the adult punch bowl.

  3. American women love abortions? Well, what’s not to love? All the attention you get, death threats, legitimate fear of being a target of violence, fear of your community finding out and judging you, lose your job, loved ones disowning you- all that and someone pries open your cervix and vacuums out your uterus!! American women know how to live it up, that’s for darn sure. Ooh, that reminds me- all of you must read:

    http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/11045709-when-she-woke

    This book should come with a trigger warning, btw. Also, its premise (changing skin color as a form of punishment) is kind of iffy, and I was prepared to hate it. But on the whole it was pretty good!

  4. And oh, if you’re complaining about lack of quantity and quality of female representation in the mass media, then make your own mass media

    What’s funny is that I just spent, like, an hour on the internet following some absolutely fabulous internet-video-maker’s work. The kinda stuff that blows away everything on primetime, yanno? But it’s a woman, so obviously it’s not quite ready for primetime.

    Dude. They’ve already made their own. It’s already in the house! IT’S ALREADY IN THE HOUSE!!!

  5. @Kitteh’s unpaid help, it’s true, but given the history of the word it was never going to be a good fit for what is essentially a social justice movement.

    Catholic Humanism is regarded by many as being the intellectual school which enabled the European Reformation to happen, it was the mother of Luther’s ideal of “Sola Scriptura” (basically he emphasized going back to the bible and basing Christianity on what was in it, so no Popes or Apostolic Succession or Purgatory or lot of other things held as doctrine in the catholic church). And this idea about using evidence and critical analysis of texts and being generally critical of generally held beliefs could also be seen as a forerunner of the Enlightenment. And you could view this as leading to questioning religion and eventually to atheism.

    All a very simplistic way of looking at the intellectual history and development of Europe but it basically means that as a term it could never be applied to Feminism. The history of words matter.

    Apologies for the potted history lesson, but it might be useful if people come up against anyone trying to use the “it should be called humanism!” line.

    And thanks for your kind words Kitteh, it’s something that really makes me angry, so I’m glad I’m being angry in a way that makes sense!

    @Ice, ah that’s rough. I reckon the EU is being wary of letting Croatia in because they don’t want to end up with another Greece on their hands.

    Also my guess that the reason the UK is being particularly tricky is because we’ve seen so much immigration from the EU already. Everyone was rather shocked at the numbers of people who came to the UK when countries like Poland joined, particularly as the UK didn’t opt to have initial controls on numbers of people coming as a lot of other nations (like France) did. As a result we didn’t prepare our infrastructure well enough and we’ve got serious problems, particularly in areas like maternity care and we’ve pretty much run out of primary school places in London because of the increase in the birth rate.

    It’s not much consolation to you I’m afraid, a lot of my family are in Greece and if Croatia’s in anything like the state that Greece is in it must be tough there. Just offering a potential explanation in apology for my country I suppose!

  6. if you’re complaining about lack of quantity and quality of female representation in the mass media, then make your own mass media.

    I think you’re a bit confused about what “mass” means.

  7. The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

    @Historophilia – I’m with you all the way. Humanism to me brings up names like Erasmus and Thomas More, the whole intellectual world of 16th century Europe. It does not suggest atheism, and even less does it suggest a concern with women’s rights. First time I heard someone use the term in connection to atheism was back in the mid 1980s, and I was like, “Whaaat?” The guy talking had never heard of the – okay, the real Humanists – and was decrying the term because to him it meant athesim (he was a born-again). Whereas to me it was like, “Are you trying to say Thomas More et al were atheists??? C’mon, I know you don’t think Catholics are Christians but that’s just stupid!” Totally crossed wires, all because a term had been appropriated.

  8. The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

    PS and given the rampant misogyny in the atheist movement, trying to wipe out the word “feminism” and replace it with “humanism” would not just be stupid, meaningless and wrong, it’d be downright insulting.

  9. @Kitteh, I heard the word in that context as well, I studied the Reformation in my second to last year of school well before I knew about it’s use in Atheism.

    I still think Erasmus when I hear the word though.

    Oh and absolutely right about the problems in the Atheistic movement.

    What is more, not all Feminists are Atheists so re-labeling ourselves Humanists would automatically alienate and exclude Feminists who do have a faith.

    In addition, why is it only Feminism that apparently needs renaming? Anarchism has got a bad rep and the word has pretty much come to mean uncontrolled violence which is not what the ideology is. Yet no-one suggests that those who identify as Anarchists should rename themselves.

    I have actually seen this double standard in action among my own housemates. One of them identifies as an Anarchist and while his beliefs have been challenged and discussed by the rest of us, the word itself is never challenged. Whereas when my views are discussed it’s one of the first things that come up.

  10. The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

    I think you nailed it before, when you said that it’s the idea of a movement being about women first and foremost that raises hackles – even with people you would’nt expect it to. Goes back to the default that person = male and anything else is a variation on the norm, and not one really worthy of consideration on its own, I guess.

    That’s a very good point too about feminists not automatically being atheists (which I daresay would make a few fundie Christian right wingers’ heads explode). I’d never call myself a humanist, simply because I’n not a) a sixteenth century scholar or b) an atheist.

    I’d sooner be the former than the latter if it meant I could get my portrait done by Holbein the Younger, though! :P

  11. Yeah. Also, feminism started over basic shit like, oh, voting. Which women needed. It was about them.

    And what a shock, names stick from history, even if they don’t fit perfectly forever! (See also: anarchism, US vs. Euro liberal, and PC.) The thing is, most people realize this and just sigh and deal with it, instead of kicking up a shit fit over it.

  12. @Kitteh, I’m technically an Atheist but I was brought up Anglican which has informed my way of looking at the world and my own morals to a certain extent.

    What’s more I’m very interested in religious history and have seen religion and faith do a lot of good for people that I know and care about.

    I am absolutely not anti-religion, in fact I’d say I’m probably as pro-religion as you can get without actually believing in God. So being tied in with the Atheist movement would be a complete anathema for me.

    For a start i’d end up in arguments with people, because every time someone pointed out all the “bad things” that religion has made happen in the world my inner Historian would be leaping forward and explaining that, for eg. the Crusades was pretty much an extended land grab by the younger sons of french nobility and that they reached the Holy Land via nicking bits of Italy and Sicily and also managed to piss off and eventually sack the greatest Christian kingdom the world has ever seen ie. Byzantium.

    So a bit more complicated than “Religion did it!!!” and then they would be annoyed at me.

    Plus I really dislike Richard Dawkins. He is a smug, intolerant old git who is not that much of a scientist and needs taking down several pegs.

  13. Argenti Aertheri

    I’m bored, and unable to resist bad math, so here’s wtf I worked out for the actual percentage of US women living with HIV or AIDS (this is complex enough, I’m not figuring it out based on that).

    First, the percentage of HIV/AIDS cases that are women, and thank you CDC! “In 2008, an estimated 25% of adults and adolescents living with HIV infection were female” (source)

    Second, what’s the percentage of HIV/AIDS cases in the population? In raw numbers — “CDC estimates that 1,148,200 persons aged 13 years and older are living with HIV infection, including 207,600 (18.1%) who are unaware of their infection” (source). Since the population of the US is 315,005,000 (source), that works out to, um, let’s round up to 0.4%

    25% of 0.4% is a tiny number, 0.1% — One tenth of a percent of US women have HIV/AIDS, not the 40-fucking-percent that idiot wanted to claim. Math, they all really suck at it (did they just like, decide that since “men are inherently better at math” they didn’t need to bother learning math?!)

    That’s ignoring race btw, and I’d be remiss not to note the disparity there — “Black and Latina women are disproportionately affected at all stages of HIV infection compared with women of other races/ethnicities.” (source)

    This has been your morning (or whatever time it is where you are) math lesson :)

  14. Argenti Aertheri

    I have very little to say that’s on topic, but I do want to second this — “Plus I really dislike Richard Dawkins. He is a smug, intolerant old git who is not that much of a scientist and needs taking down several pegs.”

    Idk how many of you saw David’s tweet about Dawkins the other day, but I emailed someone the original Dawkins stupidity, so here’s the stupid that David was tweeting about — pic of Dawkins original tweet and the link he references.

    Trigger warning on both: rape, incest, molestation, child abuse (mental and physical), religious abuse, general lack of humanity (eg comparing the above) — serious lack of humanity (and humility, though that should come as no surprise)

  15. Hurrah for real facts and numbers!

  16. It has filled my heart with joy to see a great deal of Movement Atheism actually call Dawkins on his shit.

    Of course, I say that as a former militant evangelical. Part of me is never happy if I’m not being militant for something. I totally want to be militantly anti-religion. (snarl!)

    (did they just like, decide that since “men are inherently better at math” they didn’t need to bother learning math?!)

    That would explain why nations with more gender equity not only see women’s math scores rise, but also men’s.

    (citation)

  17. Also I now feel justified in saying that I despise Richard Dawkins, not just dislike him.

    That is utterly unacceptable.

    He’s always on the radio here in the UK, from now on it is getting turned off whenever he arrives.

  18. Argenti Aertheri

    Oh Howard! Math! With citations! You make me a happy camper! (Helps that my guess might be right, but really, I do love statistics that much :) )

    Hell, I’ve been accused of being “scarily fond” of matrices.

    “Also I now feel justified in saying that I despise Richard Dawkins, not just dislike him.” — that basically sums up my thoughts, with much less swearing than I did. If David sees this, I do hope he has that tweet handy, because his comment was something akin to “Mild abuse? As compared to what? Extra spicy abuse?” (lol, in utterly unrelated things, maybe that’s how I can save the chicken my mother made last night, lots of spicy sauce)

    And whoops on that math, I failed to exclude the percent of the population under 13 and thus not included in the CDC HIV/AIDS rate. Looks like percent of the US population 0-14 years old is easy to find, so I’m just going to fudge it and pretend 13 is the same as 14.

    Second, what’s the percentage of HIV/AIDS cases in the population? In raw numbers — “CDC estimates that 1,148,200 persons aged 13 years and older are living with HIV infection, including 207,600 (18.1%) who are unaware of their infection” (source). Since the population of the US is 315,005,000 (source) …

    With 20% of those 315 million being less than or equal to 14, that leaves 252~ million. Which works out to 0.45% of the US population (over 13~14) is living with HIV/AIDS, meaning that approximately 0.1% of US women have HIV/AIDS (fun part about numbers this small is that the margins of error get so tiny they can be lost to rounding, which makes rounding errors a joy if you’re being precise)

    Re: gender and math — it seemed like in my HS a lot of the male advanced math students took calculus, and a lot of the female advanced math students took statistics. With rare excepts my statistics proves far more useful than my best friend’s calculus (and here I just took it because I was going to need it for my psych major, turns out it’s actually pretty damned useful!)

  19. Abnoy: And oh, if you’re complaining about lack of quantity and quality of female representation in the mass media, then make your own mass media.

    Mass media? I’ll get right on that. I’ll go buy the licenses needed to get the access to put that media out to the level of “mass”. I’ll also get the primary programming made, and the distribution channels to move it around the world; theater screens, access to cable providers primary line-up, etc.

    Because it’s so cheap to start that sort of thing up, and the entrenched media won’t have any problems with the competition.

    And pigs might fly out your ass.

  20. LOL @ anonymous troll, probably some butthurt MRA from a voice for men.

  21. I’m an atheist and former Catholic, so I’ve been finished with Dawkins since “Dear Muslima” because really? American women should shut up about mistreatment because women elsewhere are mistreated, yet he’s only seeking equality when it comes to ridding the world of religious bias?

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  23. I love it how he says they’re all so hideous, and then he says all American women are massive sluts that have too much sex lol. I mean I don’t believe all sluts are hot necessarily. It’s just that if you say you have to be gay to be attracted to them, then I don’t know how they would manage to get around as much as he claims. I dunno. I just thought that was funny.

  24. I – I’m so proud! I used your site link as an argument on Facebook and a mansplainer who thought he could badly type “pms” as an un-answerable argument tattled to them and they listed it as “hate speech.” Then I went and told Twitter Facebook did it. Thank you! :D #INeedFemnismBecause

  25. Well done! *fistbump*

  26. Awesome, also, the complementary welcome package consisting of a misandrist hard chair, matching bath towels, SCENTED MOTHERFUCKING CANDLES, flavored bottled water (your choice of brand and flavor) and cupcakes, delivered by female (whore) penguins in spanx.

    And a kitten previously added by katz. (You want to add kittehs? Cuz I totally can do that)

  27. Hey, the welcome package goes into mod? I thought I’d gotten it perfect?! Let’s try that again.

  28. the complementary welcome package consisting of a misandrist hard chair, matching bath towels, SCENTED MOTHERFUCKING CANDLES, flavored bottled water (your choice of brand and flavor) and cupcakes, delivered by female (whore) penguins in spanx.

  29. Katz — you’re going to have to provide the kitties yourself, they push it over the link limit :(

  30. Kittens? Kittens!

    The tabby is in my lap as we speak.

  31. Oooooooohhhhhhhawwwwwwwwwwww

    WANT

  32. Those blue eyes! My co-worker who is (probably) adopting the calico brings by a picture of her practically every day so that we can coo and squee over how cute she is.

  33. I so wish we could adopt a kitten! It’s just not possible, though. :(

  34. Enjoy the blue eyes while they’re here; they’ll be turning over the next week (except on the white ones).

    Cloudiah, thanks so much for finding an adopter for her; I’m glad she’s so excited!

  35. One one hand, aww they’re getting adopted and going bye. On the other, cloudiah’s coworker better keep us in pictures!

  36. I wonder if little tabby will get emerald green eyes? :)

  37. And just to clarify, I say she is “probably” adopting just in case there’s some reason you have to reject her, not because she is in any way wavering. I think it will all work out.

    She needs tips on introducing her adult cat to the adorable newcomer. She’s going to have them meet in a neutral space, probably a neighbor’s apartment, so that neither one has a reason to be territorial.

    Ack, gotta run to the market. See you all later!

  38. Cloiduah: does she have a spare room she can put the kitten in for a couple days? We’ve had really great luck doing that for a bit so that new kitty can chill and get used to the place, and the older cats can used to the idea of another cat.

    The older cat will probably be way more accepting of the kitten than it would be of another adult.

  39. hellkell, I think she does actually. Good idea. She said something about keeping them apart while she’s not there, until she knows they’re getting along.

  40. we kept the Biscuit in the guest room while we were at work for about the first week. We’d slooooowly start supervising the interactions until we didn’t have to worry.

  41. Kitties!

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