The crucial insight, really, was that I needed to learn more, that my own experiences and casual observations were not sufficient expertise. It’s stupid, I know, but what is obvious now was not obvious to me then.

I came to this crossroads as someone who theoretically believed in equality but was in practice still quite obliviously sexist, and I left down a different path.

Ohh, that feel… I wish this was a more common experience, the turning away from thoughtless sexism and toward consideration. I don’t think I was that bad overall, but there are certainly moments in my recent past that shame me when I remember them. I think I’ve become both a better, and more content person since I recognised the importance of feminism, and I know that I owe a great deal of that improvement to the people on this site. It’s a pretty awesome place, this.